REAL Talk about REAL Life

Lucky? Roses? Happiness….

March 17, 2016

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!! Thanks for visiting and seeing about how to get lucky!  I hope you enjoyed getting a rose!!  This is one of my favorite EMERGE events other than giving Coffee Talks at St. Ben’s!  Next year we will have to add “The Bachelor” to our Coffee Talks! 😉 I have plenty to […]

More than 1 in 2 Americans will get STD in lifetime

September 28, 2015

More than 1 in 2 Americans will get STD in lifetime Stephanie Dickrell, 12:02 p.m. CDT August 22, 2015 (Photo: Getty Images/moodboard RF) CONNECT 4 TWEETLINKEDINCOMMENTEMAILMORE Sexually transmitted diseases and infections are one of the state’s most persistent health problems, according to the Minnesota Department of Health. Public awareness and knowledge are critically low […]

Rebound Relationships

September 21, 2015

Believe it or not, “Rebound Relationships” serve a purpose.  I mean, how else do you know that you have moved on?  Think about it the hardest part about breaking up is feeling lonely.  Like nobody wants you.  You are a failure.  You deserve more.  You are ready to move on to something “better.” In all […]

When Break-ups Go Bad….

When Break-ups Go Bad….

September 8, 2015

Back in the day…it was much easier to escape the plague of breaking up.  20 years ago, the telephone was attached to the wall.  There was no social media, texting, or e-mails for that matter.  It was all just starting.  You could have someone else answer the phone and be a buffer.  Now a days, […]

The Morning After Pill aka “Plan B”

The Morning After Pill aka “Plan B”

September 3, 2015

The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved the contraceptive drug Plan B for over-the-counter sales back in August of 2006. What is the morning after pill?  The Morning After Pill is called MAP for short.  The version of MAP approved by the FDA for over-the-counter sales is called “Plan B”. It consists of 2 […]

Feeling Trapped

August 17, 2015

I received an e-mail that was titled, “Feeling Trapped.” From there, this young man proceeded to explain how his parents did not approve of his girlfriend due to her sociopath like behaviors. The mother even went as far as sending him literature on it. This young man questioned the motives of his girlfriend and was […]

“You Deserve a Happy Ending” Day 7- Marriage

March 27, 2015

Marriage is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make that will impact the rest of your life. I have been married 20 years.  My husband and I have walked through many trials, (oh the things I could tell/teach you,)  but we are both committed to marriage, and that is huge.  When one of […]

You Deserve a Happy Ending Day-6 Key Questions to Ask

March 25, 2015

You Need to Ask 1,000 Questions  Here is a hilarious, but true video. Regardless of your beliefs what this Pastor is saying about asking 1,000 questions is right on! There are main points I think every relationship needs to discuss with in the first month or two of dating.  Questions I ask young adult when […]

You Deserve a Happy Ending-Day 5 Trust

March 25, 2015

Trust is one the greatest foundations of a relationship.  It is something that can only be built over time and it deepens as you grow.  Unless the person deems themselves not to be trustworthy, then you have some hard choices to make.  In new relationships people put their best self forward, they portray themselves as […]

Personal Coffee Time-

Personal Coffee Time is when you meet with the Relationship Coach over coffee and just talk about what you have going on.  It’s informal, free, and a neutral party’s perspective.  This is not counseling it is simply someone to talk to.  To schedule a meeting time contact Tammy at EMERGE at 320.252.4150 or 320.420.2422 or email at


How relationship coaching helped me.

Jake and Ashley

Life is a tough thing to navigate, you have your own obstacles you encounter and try to overcome; when you fall in love with someone not only do you still have your own obstacles to overcome but you bring someone else’s obstacle into your life. Dating and marriage is something you enjoy and cherish but you don’t think about the choices you have to make, finances, communication, dreams/goals, faith. For us we thought we had everything figured out and it would all get easier when we got married, but the closer we got we found out the harder it was. Tammy was able to be someone that we could go to and we hear us out and offer advise on things we could d to strengthen our relationship; she was a mentor to us and to our relationship and marriage. You will encounter rough patches in marriage and you will fight, and sometimes you don’t know what to say or how to heal. Tammy helped us to find healing and forgiveness for ways we had hurt each other but also from hurts in our past that were effecting our relationship. Looking towards the future, we are so grateful for the wisdom and guidance that we have received from Emerge. Our marriage has a better foundation thanks to Tammy, we are so thankful for her. We are happily married for 2+ years and we are so thankful for the investment that Tammy has made into our lives and our marriage.

Jake and Ashley Hemmesch, Married June 11th, 2012

Jake and Ashley
Lindsey and Jon

Last summer my relationship with my boyfriend and father of my son was at an all time low. Jonathan, my boyfriend, was working out of state the majority of the summer while I was working full time and taking care of our baby. We had a lot of resentment towards each other and our communication was nothing more than bickering and blaming the other person. It got so bad I decided to go look at apartments and get ready to move out.  For the sake of my son, and for my conscious I suppose, I decided to looking into couples therapy and give our relationship one last chance. My brother had recommended Tammy to me and I agreed to meet with her. From the begining I knew I had made a great decision. Tammy was able to put things into a perspective I have never seen before. As hard as it was,I was able to see my own faults and view our relationship from a different angle. Jonathan agreed to meet with Tammy and I as well. Tammy was able to help us realize that the problems we were having were issues a lot of couples had. We were taught tools on how to better communicate with each other and the importance of blessing each other as well. We learned that separating wouldn’t really “fix” anything as it would come with a whole new bunch of
problems we would have to figure out ,especially when it comes to parenting.  Tammy saved my family. Jonathan and I grew and learned a lot. Our family is happier than we ever have been and on August 7th Jonathan proposed to me while on our family vacation in Duluth. I said yes!

Lindsey and Jon
Terry and Abbe

Tammy helped two young twenty-something’s see that they were worthy of being loved and giving love.  Tammy gave me the courage to tell this cute girl that I liked how I really felt about her-which was scary since I had never done that before. Once we started dating, Tammy was a constant source of advice, wisdom, and encouragement during our dating, then courtship, and now, our marriage of two years. Communication tips, vocational and financial advice, practicing healthy sexuality and modesty, and an understanding of each other’s temperaments were all aspects of Tammy’s wisdom we were able to glean from her and apply to our relationship.  I can safely say that without Tammy in our relationship and our lives, we wouldn’t have the solid and committed relationship that we now have. 

Terry and Abbe

Tammy has restored my faith in myself that I, even though have lost my virginity Its still worth it to wait! Tammy has also restored an sense of truth into my life by explaining the biological and physical effects of waiting, this helps me to stay focused and driven when I feel like I’ve got nothing to wait for when I’ve already crossed the line. It is because of her I am able to stay grounded in my standards. With out her I would have kept making choices that would effect my future negatively but now I see there is hope and a purpose.