Love OR Infatuation????


Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love.  Infatuation usually occurs at the beginning of relationship when sexual attraction is central.  Love can be described as feeling of intense affection for another person.  It is most often talked about as an emotion between two persons. 

Definition of Infatuation: Infatuation is the stat of being completely lost in the emotion of unreasoning desire.

Symptoms: Urgency, intensity, sexual desire, anxiety, high rid choices, reckless abandonment of what was once valued.

Result: Emptiness, consequences of choices made under the influence of mind numbing temporary lust.


Definition of Love: A decision to commit oneself to another and to work through conflicts instead of giving up. 

Symptoms: Faithfulness, loyalty, confidence.  Willingness to make sacrifices for another.  Working at settling differences.  Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other’s opinion a chance. 

Result: Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise children.


Bottom Line: Infatuation is delusional.  Not real.  Love is unconditional and the real deal.  Infatuation is of the now.  Love is a gradual process.  It happens over time. If you don’t love yourself enough to set standards and boundaries in place to work through infatuation in the beginning of relationships you may find relationships over whelming and question your value even more because you are always operating under infatuation.  If you focus on building a solid friendship initially that may set the stage in finding out if the other person has the qualities you are looking for.  Then once you see their true character decide if they are someone you want to pursue dating.  Just remember…infatuation is high emotion, don’t make any dating decisions until that emotion slows down and you can see things clearly.   


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