LOVE IS A CHOICE MORE THAN A FEELING

We tend to focus on falling in love and use the feeling of love to determine the duration of a relationship.  It’s pretty easy to fall in love, but its also pretty easy to fall out of love.  Of course, when a relationship is new, it’s fun and easy to get to know somebody.  In the beginning, all we do is constantly think about that person and we want to spend all our waking hours with them.  After time, feelings can start to fade and it starts to take work to keep the love alive and at that point choosing to stay in love will be a choice that we must make.  Staying in love takes a commitment.  When the newness fades away we have to make a choice to love this person and make a commitment or let the relationship go.  Each day we must make a choice to see the good in the other person rather than focus on the negative.  Every relationship will not be perfect.  We should strive to be supportive of our partner, because we cannot expect something from them that we are not willing to give ourselves.  If something bothers you then discuss it, but sometimes we just need to pick our battles and move forward.  Trying to change our partner is one of the biggest mistakes in a relationship.  In every relationship there will be trying times and hard times.  We need to choose to work through it together and always remember why we made the commitment to love that other person.

Love is about choices….we choose to see the good and ignore the petty, look for what we could do to encourage and be supportive of our partner and always remember why we love that other person.  When you work together through the ups and downs that is how we receive the wonderful reward of staying in love.

 

 

 

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